Many times when we meet with a girl, it takes a few minutes to get focused. She has a lot going on in her world and her thoughts may be anywhere but where we need them to be. Take some time to get things focused.

• Allow her to "vent". Let her "unload" in a controlled environment. She may not be able to focus until she addresses what's bothering her. Listen, even if it does not relate to what you had in mind to discuss.
  
  
• Just simply sit quietly for a few minutes.
  
  
• Listen to music before you get started.
  
  
• Offer the opportunity to use the restroom; get a Coke, etc. to avoid distractions and interruptions later.
  
  
• If in a group, give them a few minutes to chat. This will help the group get focused when you need them to and cut down on side conversations. If you are working one on one, give her time to simply tell you about her day, her new boyfriend, or her fight with her best friend, etc.
  
  
• Review what you talked about last time you met. (Review your records before she arrives and then remind her of the previous meetings topics and concerns.)
  
  
• Read a poem aloud.
  
  
• Talk about the weather, current events, and new clothes - anything to get the conversation flowing.
  Read some affirmations or inspirational quotes.
  
  
• Use guided imagery.