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The objective of this activity is to help girls understand the differences between the images they portray to others versus their true self. This exercise helps girls understand the images we portray to the world do not necessarily give an accurate picture of who we are. This is also a great teaching tool to address the inner conflict and turmoil a person experiences when these inner and outer images continuously conflict with each other.

Supplies:

• Paper Bags
• Crayons, Markers, Pens, Pencils
• Old Magazines
• Glue
• Construction paper

Begin the activity by explaining that the outside of the bag is to be decorated to represent the image they portray to the world. This is how others see them. This is their outer image. Their behaviors towards others create this image. They may use all the craft supplies, pictures from magazines, etc. Allow the girls to be creative and design their bag however they choose.

Explain that the inside of the bag is going to be a representation of whom they really are. Their true self, their inner self. INFORM THEM UP FRONT THEY WILL NOT BE REQUIRED TO SHARE THE INSIDE OF THEIR BAG WITH OTHERS UNLESS THEY CHOOSE. Have them decorate the inside of the bag to represent their inner self. (By sharing the inside of the bag, they may put themselves in a vulnerable position. If they do not feel "safe" within the group - or with the individual facilitating this activity, they should not be required to share their vulnerable self).

When the bag is complete, pose these questions to her and allow her time to think about them.

• Is there a great difference between the images?
• Is there conflict between these images? (An example - if a girl is genuinely caring and loving but is pressured by peers to be "tough" and "bullish" - this would cause great conflict)
• Can you think of ways to bring the images closer together?
• Are there fears identified? Can you think of ways to overcome fears?

After giving her time to reflect, discuss each question and assist her with some plans to narrow the differences between these images. Be supportive. No judgments or lecturing. If she is going to make changes, they must be because she wants to. Also discuss why there is no requirement to share the inside of the bag. Discuss safe places or people she can talk to if she chooses. If this is done one on one with a girl, she may feel very comfortable. In a group setting, she may not feel comfortable enough around the others to share.